People Who Are More Likely to Be Cheated On

'What if my partner cheats on me?' That anxious thought,

be honest, you've had it at least once, right?

You want to trust them, but dating these days is anything but easy.

The affairs you hear about from people around you, the betrayal scenes in dramas.

Does your heart sink when you wonder whether your relationship might be next?

So why are some people especially prone to becoming victims of cheating?

There are reasons. Let's look at a few traits that research and psychology have uncovered.

People who are more likely to be cheated on

1. People with low self-esteem

When your self-esteem is low, you become overly dependent on your partner, and your partner may find that attitude burdensome. Or you may readily forgive a partner who treats you badly. That makes it likely your partner slips into a complacent attitude of 'I can get away with anything'.

2. People who are afraid of conflict

People who can't bring themselves to say anything unpleasant to their partner even when problems come up.

This attitude means that when your partner does something wrong, you don't try to set it right; you just look the other way. And over time, your partner's behavior may cross more and more lines.

3. Relationships lacking emotional communication

If you don't have deep conversations with your partner, there's a growing chance you won't understand each other's feelings. When that happens, your partner is more likely to be drawn to someone else they feel a stronger emotional connection with.

What the research tells us

A study at Harvard University in the US looked into the shared psychology of people who cheat. Surprisingly, the reasons for cheating weren't simply about physical attraction or money. The biggest factors were a sense of alienation within the relationship and a lack of emotional connection.

In other words, it comes down to the psychological deficits people feel in small, everyday moments.

For example, feeling like there's no one who listens to you,

or feeling like there's no space to open up about your emotions.

So who are the people who don't cheat, and where do you meet them?

Cheating starts with a deficit.

Whether it's an emotional deficit or a sexual one.

You need to find what deficit exists between the two of you,

and to figure out how to resolve it,

you first need to understand both of your dating types.

Because which hormone plays the biggest role in a relationship differs from person to person.

You first need to understand how the four hormones ('dopamine', 'serotonin', 'testosterone', and 'estrogen') act on the brain, and then understand what that person needs and what causes problems for them. Only then can you analyze the cause and make improvements.

To put it briefly, the brain regions that respond to each hormone differ from person to person.

The dopamine type prefers an upbeat, fun relationship but hates boredom and tends to be impulsive.

The serotonin type is diligent and practical, dating in a steady, regular way, but can feel stifling.

The testosterone type is dependable, systematic, and bold, but weak at expressing emotion, so they come across as independent and cool.

And the estrogen type is peaceful and empathy-driven, but sensitive.

Even at a glance, these types are wildly different from one another,

so the first step is to find out, through professional testing and counseling, which type you are and which type your partner is, right?

Honest conversation

Communication with your partner is non-negotiable.

Sometimes you have to be honest even when the subject is uncomfortable.

But you should start with language that invites them gently into the conversation, not interrogation or a list of complaints.

If you work through problems in conversation instead of avoiding them, you'll grow emotionally stronger together.

Respecting each other's space

Don't try to be glued together all the time.

Early in a relationship, being inseparable can feel great, but as time goes on, you each need your own time. You need to create room for each of you to grow if the relationship is going to last.

Whether you see the signs or not

Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, the other person doesn't change.

Or sometimes you sense something off in your partner's behavior.

When that happens, don't just agonize over it alone. Get help from a professional.

Relationship counseling is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.

If anything, it can be the first step toward sorting out your feelings and meeting someone better in the future.

And always remember: we are all more than worthy of being loved.

A relationship is something two people build together.

It's not something you have to shoulder alone.

Don't cling to your partner out of fear of being cheated on.

I hope you'll have a relationship where you take care of yourself and grow!