How you date matters more than how often you date. Most people judge on gut feeling alone and have no goal for each meeting. You find the one when you observe strategically and meet with intention. Read more...
The uncomfortable truth you need to know if you've joined a matchmaking agency. Only 30% of married people say they would marry their spouse again. Why? Because marriage takes far more than simply meeting someone, yet the agency only handles the matching, and everything else is on you. Read more...
Why is it so hard for a man in his 30s to find someone to marry? A lack of dating experience, a missed marriage window, a sense of urgency... these factors combine into a vicious cycle. Local-government singles parties aren't a real solution either. What you need is to search properly, with vetted candidates and clear standards.. Read more...
When, and at what point, should you confess your feelings so that it's a real confession and not a confession ambush? The truth is, confessing is something you do when you're both nearly on the same page, to get certainty Read more...
Will lowering your standards get you married? Statistics show 75% of married people are satisfied, yet only 29% would marry the same person again. Marital satisfaction depends on personality and values, not looks or money. Don't lower your standards; clarify them. Read more...
The talking stage has stages of its own. There are three in total, the pre-talking stage, the talking stage, and the deep talking stage, and most of you have probably never checked which stage you're in or what behavior is appropriate at each one. Read more...
Do you know people whose connection fizzles out the moment something starts to spark? If you have no idea what's wrong, you want a relationship, you're increasingly afraid it will happen again, and you're stuck in that vicious cycle Read more...
You need to understand the essentials of the talking stage. Otherwise you won't know which stage you're in, so you won't know what behavior is appropriate at that point, and one slip can send the whole thing crashing down Read more...
Walking into a matchmaking agency blind date without your own game plan is like heading onto a battlefield without a weapon. Learn how to win the battle before you go. Read more...
Traits of men who cheat! Knowing just these can help you spot a likely cheater before marriage, so figure them out early and build a stable relationship that leads all the way to marriage. Read more...
This one is for anyone who has no idea how to carry a conversation on a blind date. Think signing up with a matchmaking agency will solve everything? Think again. Read more...
When choosing a spouse, what matters is understanding your real needs and standards. Marriage isn't just an extension of dating; it's a lifelong partnership, so it calls for a careful choice. Read more...
Men who cheat always give themselves away somewhere. What matters is objective evidence. The things men do when they cheat vary widely, but for you, the reader, I'm going to share exactly three pieces of evidence. Read more...
What is Ideal Type Design? It means designing the person you want, while building the reasons that person should want to meet you. It even pins down where that person is, so it can lead you to your future spouse. Let's find out how it's done. Read more...
To overcome a relationship slump, it's important to understand each other's attachment styles and conflict-resolution styles. A slump isn't the end but an opportunity to grow. If you both put in the effort, you can move toward a deeper, more mature love. Read more...
You've paid a fortune to a matchmaking agency, signed up for dating apps, and taken every setup your friends could offer, yet every blind date ends with you coming home deflated. If that's you, read this. Read more...
A gut feeling about marriage isn't just a vague sensation; it can be an important signal. To read it well, you need to look carefully at the other person's behavior, values, and more. Read more...
You don't need to rush your choice of spouse because of social pressure. What matters more than speed is choosing the spouse who's right for you. The key is understanding your real needs and standards. Read more...
Lots of you are signing up with matchmaking agencies or trying dating apps. But reality isn't that kind. Here's what you need to know, from an expert who has done countless relationship-recovery counseling sessions, and from the perspective of a woman in her 20s. Read more...
Have you thought seriously about what kind of woman you want to spend your life with? If you don't know what kind of marriage partner is right for you, you need to figure that out first before you can meet that person. Read more...
Truth or myth about dating sites and apps. The biggest worry is whether it's okay to meet the men you find on an app, and this post will settle it for you. Read more...
A real matchmaking agency review for women, based on the story of a client who works at a major corporation. Somewhere between self-awareness and getting lowballed, she lays bare the caliber of men you actually get matched with. Read more...
Won't they think about their ex even while they're with me? But what matters more to us is that having been in a long-term relationship also means they're capable of a long-term relationship with you. Read more...
When you think of marriage, the only keywords that come to mind are giving up, sacrifice, and devotion, so it already feels like a burden. Let's look at why marriage isn't a choice but a must. Read more...
Everyone worries and frets about their marriage age, but you've probably never looked at the actual statistics. Knowing where you stand raises your odds of marrying the person you actually want. Read more...
Feeling anxious because it seems like you're the only one still single? As the wedding invitations pile up, you might feel like you're missing out on something. Stop for a moment and read this. Read more...
When a man finds marriage burdensome, there's a good chance his attachment style is avoidant. I'll simply share what I've seen from the countless reconciliation counseling sessions I've run. Read more...
Searching for a future partner naturally brings up all kinds of worries. Let's have a relaxed talk about how men in their 30s can prepare for marriage and meet the spouse they're hoping for. Read more...
These days you often see people living perfectly fine in society without ever marrying. And yet the anxious thought 'What happens if I never get married?' still creeps in. Don't just brush that anxiety aside; let's think about it seriously for once. Read more...
Been in a long-term relationship, but your boyfriend still won't bring up marriage? If you have no idea what kind of woman men want to marry, you need to read this Read more...
Don't you want to know whether the person you like at a gathering likes you back? The special things people naturally do around someone they're attracted to are so natural that they leave you second-guessing, and wanting them even more. Read more...
Who is the right person for you? For many people, the hard part is that they don't even know what kind of person they want. Read more...
The truth is, feelings come and go: they seem to vanish, then show up again out of nowhere. That's why a relationship slump can be overcome. Here are 3 things to remember to get through a slump in your relationship. Read more...
Am I really in a slump? Is our relationship okay? Have I grown weary of this relationship or marriage, in other words of my partner, and become lazy or tired of it? Some of you are certain of it. Read more...
Is marriage just an extension of dating? Are you thinking about marriage for reasons like 'because I just like them' or 'because I'm at that age'? If that sounds like you, pay attention and hear me out. Read more...
The affairs you hear about from people around you, the betrayal scenes in dramas. Does your heart sink when you wonder whether your relationship might be next? So why are some people especially prone to becoming victims of cheating? Read more...
In most cases things start to grind before marriage is even on the table, back in the dating stage. An anxious type wants to text and meet up whenever there's free time, while an avoidant type needs that free time to themselves. Read more...
Frustrated that no matter which dating site you use, the results are always disappointing? Even when you match with someone who seems great, the conversation fizzles out, or you meet and find you don't click as well as you'd hoped. Everyone has been there at least once. Read more...
Can I really find my lifelong partner by spending this kind of money? It's a fair worry. Here's the reality of whether or not to sign up with a matchmaking agency, from the perspective of a man in his 30s. Read more...
If you keep using a love language that doesn't match your partner, it won't feel like love to them, while from your side you're left wondering why they don't see how much love you've been expressing. Read more...
Most of you have had the experience where 'the person I like doesn't like me, and the people I don't want keep coming my way.' This happens because you lack self-awareness. Read more...
There's a reason you've never dated, and if you look at those reasons, you'll find your bearings on how to start dating and get married. Read more...
Some people may assume that dating long enough will naturally lead to marriage. But dating and marriage are different. Read more...
If you've ever wondered why you get along so easily with same-sex friends but can't seem to communicate with the opposite sex, this column will help quite a bit. Read more...
While looking into matchmaking agencies, you've probably seen plenty of places calling themselves "noblesse" matchmaking agencies. The word may make them sound intimidating, but it simply means a matchmaking agency for the upper class. Read more...
How you spend this exciting phase and what kind of relationship you open the door to is up to you. Take a moment to ask yourself whether you've been steering this process well so far. Read more...
Will you present yourself as someone who can show interest while still respecting the other person's position, or remain someone who is pushed around by their own feelings? Read more...
How many people can confidently say that as soon as they meet someone they like, they can get through the talking stage, date, and make it all the way to marriage? Read more...
A lot of people think a regular blind date and a matchmaking agency blind date are the same thing, but this calls for a whole different strategy. Read more...
The guy you like doesn't ask for a second date, and the guy you don't like comes on way too strong... We've all been there at least once, right? If you want a second date from the man you're interested in, keep these in mind. Read more...
Whether it's your first blind date and you have no idea where to start, or you've had bad results every time and feel lost, if you at least know these things before you go, you won't fail. Read more...
Marriage for a highly educated woman seemed realistically out of reach... so how did it happen? Let's find out through real cases from my clients. Read more...
Becoming a good man is simpler than you think. These are things anyone can achieve with effort, and they don't require money or specs. Read more...
Why do my friends marry decent women while I can't? How did my friends end up marrying women like that? What do they have that I don't? What's the reason? Read more...
What are those men actually doing? Have you ever stopped to think about what they do for a living and what they've been through to get there? Read more...
What exactly makes someone "the one you marry"? Why do some people break up after three or more years together, while others decide to marry after less than a year? Are the person you date and the person you marry two different people? Read more...
People assume that once they register with a matchmaking agency, they'll get matched and marriage will take care of itself. Think that way, and disappointment is guaranteed. Read more...
I don't feel like I'm lacking anything... Some of you have thought this. Rather than vaguely guessing, you need to know the exact reason before you can meet a good man. Read more...
Breaking up with a partner of ten years? Finding a spouse afterward? Neither. The hardest part was finding a reason to break up with someone I had been with for ten years. Read more...
