Why You Can't Meet a Good Woman - For Men (Part 2)

If you want to meet a good woman, become a good man first

Let me pick up where I left off last time.

Before figuring out where the good women are, let's first think about what a "good woman" even is.

Is a good woman simply someone who's rich, capable, well-educated, from a well-off family, and pretty? Or is the better woman the one who understands men, gives them due recognition and praise, empathizes when things are hard, and offers advice?
If you had to pick one, it'd be tough. So is there no woman who has both?

The truth is, a "good woman" doesn't just sit around waiting. A woman like that looks just as attractive to other men. So if you want to meet her, naturally, it takes effort.

What effort does it take to meet a good woman?

Build a great career, keep working on yourself, and always be ready for a "good woman" to come looking for you. If you ask me what effort you should make, here's my answer: "Become a good man first."
Now, you need to ask yourself: are you a good man?

You're not just thinking about specs like money, ability, and education, are you? Of course those can matter, but they aren't everything. You may need to look at whether you've been giving up just because you don't have those things.

Becoming a good man is simpler than you think

Here are a few standards.

• A man who can understand a woman's emotions
• A healthy man who can protect a woman
• A man who empathizes when she's going through a hard time
• A man who can lead with strength
• A man who doesn't whine about his own struggles and can inspire trust

These five are things anyone can achieve with effort. They don't require money or specs.

Where are the good women?

Now you also need to figure out where the good women are. Meeting people through a variety of activities and not missing opportunities matters, too. And when you do meet her, you need the ability to express your feelings proactively. If you hide your feelings and just wait, the opportunity can slip away.

Why haven't you met a good woman yet?

The reason you haven't met a good woman is simple. You've only been waiting, without effort, and you're not yet ready to be a good man. From now on, change your perspective and focus first on becoming a good man. That will be your first step toward meeting a good woman.

So, how about becoming a good man starting now?