Dating Site Reviews (Is It Okay to Meet Men Through a Dating App?)

"I thought I'd never in my life try a dating site or a dating app, but..."

Marriageable age keeps slipping by, it feels like you've already been set up with everyone your friends and their acquaintances know,

matchmaking agencies are too expensive, and you've tried social clubs and hobby meetups without much to show for it,

so you find yourself searching for dating sites. There are a lot of women in their late 20s and 30s in this position.

But the stigma around apps and the bad stories you hear make you worry,

and yet you can't just sit on your hands, so you search here and there for at least a decent app,

and ask around for other people's reviews, don't you?

Now I'm going to share the realistic app reviews I've heard from clients while doing relationship-recovery counseling.

It's cheap. And the pool isn't guaranteed to match.

Among women who are thinking about marriage,

getting set up cheaply with mediocre men VS paying once to be set up with properly vetted men

does anyone here pick the former?

If you're genuinely looking for someone to marry, probably not many would choose the former.

Yes, apps are cheap. But what that means is the barrier to entry is low.

And if the barrier to entry is low?

It also means there's a high chance that most of the men are not high earners, or are chasing casual encounters rather than genuinely intending to marry.

Why do people pay a lot of money to sign up with a matchmaking agency?

Because they either have the means to pay that much, or the will to find a marriage partner worth that much.

So naturally, the odds of meeting someone who fits your purpose go up.

That doesn't mean every expensive matchmaking agency is automatically good.

It's all too common to spend the money and still not get matched with the kind of person you want.

For reviews of matchmaking agencies, the column below is worth a read.

So what should you do?

Criteria for choosing a dating site. What's the smart way to choose?

Whether it's a dating site or a matchmaking agency, when choosing a company

you have to consider both how it recruits singles and what it costs.

Depending on the direction a company is pursuing and the messages it puts out,

the people who see that and sign up will, to a large degree, share that direction.

Also, the cost shouldn't be absurdly high or too low;

choose at a level that guarantees a certain amount of financial capacity and commitment.

You need to think hard about why we ultimately sign up with these companies.

Is it over once you simply get introduced and book a wedding venue?

Or is the goal not just marriage, but a stable future with someone you won't end up divorcing in the first place?

If it's the latter, then not just what kind of pool the company has, but how far it takes care of you after the match becomes a hugely important indicator.

After reading the introduction above, think about your fundamental goal: whether you really want to meet someone to marry through an introduction,

or whether you want to meet someone you won't end up divorcing.

Then compare the introductions of various dating sites carefully, and I hope you'll choose a company as carefully as you'd choose your marriage partner.