Marriage Isn't Easy for Men in Their 30s. Can You Afford to Just Wait?
Guys, once we hit our 30s, the serious thinking about marriage begins, doesn't it?
You wonder, "Where do I even start?" and there are probably moments when it feels overwhelming, knowing this is a major turning point in your life.
Searching for a future partner naturally brings up all kinds of worries. So today, let's have a relaxed talk about how men in their 30s can prepare for marriage and meet the spouse they're hoping for.
Preparing for marriage as a man in your 30s: how do you balance reality and ideals?
In Korea these days, a man in his 30s is often someone who has just started his career and is still getting established financially and socially. As you begin to seek stability, it's natural to feel torn between the practical worries about marriage and your ideal expectations.
Statistically, the average cost of getting married is said to be about 80,780,000 KRW for the man and about 29,360,000 KRW for the woman, roughly 110,000,000 KRW in total. Looking at numbers like that,
you may hesitate and think, "Do I really need to spend this much money to get married?"
But before you get stuck on that, have you ever stopped to think about what kind of person would make it worth spending that money to build a future together?
Guys, we all know that once we have a goal, we have the energy to see it through to the end. So with a decision as big as marriage ahead of you, it might be a good time to think, without pressure, about who you'd be willing to go through all of this with.
Your ideal spouse: what are your criteria?
When you think about marriage, it's important to clearly define the kind of spouse you want. That should include a range of factors: looks, personality, values, and views on marriage.
Maybe you've been in a hard relationship where you were drawn in by looks but the personality or values didn't match. Or the personality and values fit, but you were headed toward different goals, and that brought its own difficulties.
You may also have brought up marriage out of love, only to be disappointed because your partner's views on marriage and timing were different. Add the practical factors on top of that, and it's no wonder the question "Who on earth am I supposed to meet?" only gets heavier.
Looking around, it's hard to find anyone who fits, and carving out time to meet new people in a busy daily life isn't easy either. This is when a lot of people turn to a matchmaking agency.
But the idea of a matchmaking agency can feel like you're being graded, and the sign-up and matching fees can feel like a burden. And then there's the worry: what if they introduce me to people I'm not interested in? If this sounds like you, let's go over one important point.
How do you find your ideal spouse?
To meet your ideal spouse, you can't just look for someone whose specs line up; you need someone whose lifestyle and values genuinely fit with yours. How well you communicate and how well you can understand each other's situations is what matters.
And for us men especially, isn't the important thing finding someone who treasures every effort and bit of consideration you put in during the relationship, instead of taking it for granted?
You're facing a major moment in your life, so it's a time that calls for careful choices. Getting help from an expert can be a good option here. Rather than being graded on a tier alone, you can be matched with someone who genuinely fits you, based on years of dating and marriage counseling experience.
And if you use a service that looks after the whole process, from the early days of dating all the way to marriage preparation, you'll be able to picture your future that much more smoothly, right?
If you can find the balance between practical preparation and ideal expectations, you'll surely be able to start a happy, stable married life. If you want to meet a good person, put effort into preparing for a good meeting. Why not submit your diagnosis questionnaire right now and begin the journey of finding someone who fits you? Marriage is a major turning point in life, so stop agonizing over it alone and make a wise choice together with an expert.
