Know Just This Before a Blind Date and You're Halfway There (Men's Edition)

2025-01-23 18:44

Whether it's your first blind date and you have no idea where to start, or you've had bad results every time and feel lost,

if you at least know these things before you go, you won't fail.

Wait, if you're about to leave thinking "Come on, as if I didn't know that," stick with me for a moment.

The looks I'm talking about aren't about changing what you were born with; it's the idea of a "clean, well-groomed impression."

Starting with the most basic beard grooming, and if possible, tidying your eyebrows,

a hairstyle that's neither messy nor over the top,

clothes that suit the TPO (Time, Place, Occasion),

clear skin, and making sure you don't smell unpleasant.

Cover just these, and the other person won't judge the whole date on your appearance alone.

It's the most basic courtesy and your first impression, so please take care of at least this much.

Small talk starts with being curious about the other person.

Curiosity leads to questions, and questions make conversation possible.

What many men worry about is "How do I lead the conversation?"

But in reality, the feeling that "we really clicked" doesn't come from being a slick talker like a TV host.

So how do you do it?

First, it's important to throw out several topics and figure out where the person's interests lie.

If you notice a topic where their eyes light up, they talk longer, or they get excited,

keep asking questions about it with the "curiosity" I mentioned earlier.

Then they'll get excited and start talking on their own.

And once that conversation is over?

Even though they were the one doing most of the talking, they'll feel, "Wow, I really clicked with this person."

Because even on a first meeting, they got excited and had fun talking.

The key isn't that you talk a lot; it's whether the other person enjoyed the conversation.

Finding out which topics they love is what matters most, so don't forget it.

How you treat the staff at a restaurant—it seems like nothing, but it's incredibly important.

From each little attitude like this, she imagines what a relationship with you would be like later, and how you'd treat her.

Also, setting out her cutlery or pouring her water, holding the door on the way out, pulling out her chair,

these small considerations and manners can be a hugely important evaluation factor on a first meeting.

Even if nothing else landed, this one thing can make her reconsider,

so having basic manners is a must.

Next up I'll bring you the women's edition, so look forward to it.